Anonymous 1


When I think about queer ances­tral kin, the first per­son that always comes to mind is, and, you know, I say this with the utmost amount of respect, Audre Lorde. I think that she has been such a touch­stone for me and my friends and how her world was intro­duced to me by my friends in such inti­mate and beau­ti­ful ways is a gift. I think her expe­ri­ence as a black, dis­abled les­bian, poet, philoso­pher and just the knowl­edge that she shared has been so restora­tive and so beau­ti­ful for me and my friends. And I think there’s a cou­ple of moments that speak to that.

We have real­ly bond­ed over this idea of queer­pla­ton­ic inti­ma­cy. Right. And I think Audrey Lorde real­ly speaks to that when she talks about the erot­ic as a source of pow­er and what that means, and I think, you know, she specif­i­cal­ly is talk­ing about black non-men.

There’s no hier­ar­chy between roman­tic love and pla­ton­ic love and sex­u­al love and how we make those bound­aries and rela­tion­ships depend on what we’re look­ing for.

Every time I take a breath, that is me sur­viv­ing because of the peo­ple that came before me. So, yeah, that’s how I feel when I think about great ances­tors. I def­i­nite­ly feel the res­o­nance with Audrey Lorde. And so, I think this idea of queer­pla­ton­ic inti­ma­cy is so impor­tant to me because my cho­sen kin is absolute­ly my friends, but they’re also peo­ple that love me so deeply and see me so deeply that I’ve just nev­er had that type of relationship.